Content of the material
- How to add friends cross-server:
- What to look for in a friend
- Focus on the way a friendship feels, not what it looks like
- How to make new friends: Where to start
- Meeting new people
- Take a moment to unplug
- Stop sharing your location
- 5. Avoid sleepovers
- 10. Prioritize the friendship part of FWB over the physical
- Look at the match
- 5 Traditional Set-up
- For the Person Being Set Up
- 2 Double Date
- Learn more
- Friends and followers limits
How to add friends cross-server:
- You can go to player search and type the player name (menu > social > player search). To use this feature, the player must be online.
- Failed to recall the name? No worries! You can check your ‘Contacts’ (menu > social > contacts) to check the last 50 players that went to the dungeon with you. You can directly add them from that window too!
- You can also do it the old fashion way, by setting up a meeting point via ‘tell’, travel to other servers, then right-click the person and choose ‘send a friend request’.
Connecting with someone makes our heart warm, and to feel such warmth is bliss. A stranger on a strange land they may be, but it only took a smile and kindness to open their hearts. Shall we be friends?
What to look for in a friend
A friend is someone you trust and with whom you share a deep level of understanding and communication. A good friend will:
- Show a genuine interest in what’s going on in your life, what you have to say, and how you think and feel.
- Accept you for who you are.
- Listen to you attentively without judging you, telling you how to think or feel, or trying to change the subject.
- Feel comfortable sharing things about themselves with you.
As friendship works both ways, a friend is also someone you feel comfortable supporting and accepting, and someone with whom you share a bond of trust and loyalty.
Focus on the way a friendship feels, not what it looks like
The most important quality in a friendship is the way the relationship makes you feel—not how it looks on paper, how alike you seem on the surface, or what others think. Ask yourself:
- Do I feel better after spending time with this person?
- Am I myself around this person?
- Do I feel secure, or do I feel like I have to watch what I say and do?
- Is the person supportive and am I treated with respect?
- Is this a person I can trust?
The bottom line: if the friendship feels good, it is good. But if a person tries to control you, criticizes you, abuses your generosity, or brings unwanted drama or negative influences into your life, it’s time to re-evaluate the friendship. A good friend does not require you to compromise your values, always agree with them, or disregard your own needs.
How to make new friends: Where to start
We tend to make friends with people we cross paths with regularly: people we go to school with, work with, or live close to. The more we see someone, the more likely a friendship is to develop. So, look at the places you frequent as you start your search for potential friends.
Another big factor in friendship is common interests. We tend to be drawn to people who are similar, with a shared hobby, cultural background, career path, or kids the same age. Think about activities you enjoy or the causes you care about. Where can you meet people who share the same interests?
Meeting new people
When looking to meet new people, try to open yourself up to new experiences. Not everything you try will lead to success but you can always learn from the experience and hopefully have some fun.
Volunteering can be a great way to help others while also meeting new people. Volunteering also gives you the opportunity to regularly practice and develop your social skills.
Take a class or join a club to meet people with common interests, such as a book group, dinner club, or sports team. Websites such as Meetup.com can help you find local groups (or start your own) and connect with others who share similar interests.
Connect with your alumni association. Many colleges have alumni associations that meet regularly. You already have the college experience in common; bringing up old times makes for an easy conversation starter. Some associations also sponsor community service events or workshops where you can meet more people.
Walk a dog. Dog owners often stop and chat while their dogs sniff or play with each other. If dog ownership isn’t right for you, volunteer to walk dogs from a shelter or a local rescue group.
Attend art gallery openings, book readings, lectures, music recitals, or other community events where you can meet people with similar interests. Check with your library or local paper for events near you.
Behave like someone new to the area. Even if you’ve lived in the same place all your life, take the time to re-explore your neighborhood attractions. New arrivals to any town or city tend to visit these places first—and they’re often keen to meet new people and establish friendships, too.
Cheer on your team. Going to a bar alone can seem intimidating, but if you support a sports team, find out where other fans go to watch the games. You automatically have a shared interest—your team—which makes it natural to start up a conversation.
Take a moment to unplug
It’s difficult to meet new people in any social situation if you’re more interested in your phone than the people around you. Remove your headphones and put your smartphone away while you’re in the checkout line or waiting for a bus, for example. Making eye contact and exchanging small talk with strangers is great practice for making connections—and you never know where it may lead!
Stop sharing your location
If you don’t want your friends to see your location in Find My Friends, you can stop sharing it. You can still see the location of your friends, but your friends see Location Not Available when they try to locate you.
On your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch:
- Go to Settings > [your name].
- If you’re using iOS 12, tap Share My Location. If you’re using an earlier version of iOS, tap iCloud > Share My Location.
- Turn off Share My Location.
5. Avoid sleepovers
Along the same lines as the last piece of advice, you and your FWB should avoid having sleepovers. After having sex, LEAVE! Cuddles and spooning fall squarely into activities for couples and should be avoided if you want your FWB relationship to work. As does pillow talk, which can often get very intimate. As nice as it is so wake up next to someone in the morning (and potentially have morning sex!) that is an intimacy that you should try and reserve for serious partners. This is not to say that you need to kick your friend to the curb as soon as you finish having sex, but you should be weary of sleepovers, as they might add complications to your casual relationship.
10. Prioritize the friendship part of FWB over the physical
At the end of the day, remember that you should be friends with your FWB. A FWB relationship is not just a random hookup and it’s important to keep up a good relationship with one another outside of the bedroom. Because FWB is not a long-term thing, you should focus on being able to keep your friendship alive even if the benefits part of your relationship comes to an end (which it eventually will) You don’t need to spend a ton of time together to maintain your friendship, but focusing on keeping things fun, lighthearted, and playful, will help you prioritize the friendship part over the physical.
Respecting each other’s expectations and boundaries will also ensure that you stay on good terms throughout your FWB relationship and after it’s over. It is totally possible to stay friends with someone after you have hooked up (whether it’s one time or many times) as long as you maintain a mutual respect for one another. It can sometimes take a bit of time to transition from hooking up to being friends again, but keeping the idea of friendship in your head through the hooking up stage will help this transition when the time comes.
Look at the match
Does the person you want to set up with your other friend have something in common? If one loves going out every night and the other one is a homebody, it may not be the best fit. Look at preference, type, want and goals for both of the people you’re setting up. You don’t want to over-promise!
You also want to make sure that both parties are looking for the same thing! Whether that be something casual or potentially a serious relationship. The last thing you want to do as a matchmaker is set someone up that wants a relationship with someone that really doesn’t want one.
5 Traditional Set-up
This one is pretty similar to the blind date idea except that it doesn’t have to be blind and perhaps both friends are already interested in each other, so you are just the go-between messenger. This is one of the most natural ways to set up your friends because it can occur via mutual requests and it’s almost like online dating, so your friends know exactly what they are getting into. Make sure they have dinner or coffee together and definitely check-in after to see how it went, but be careful not to get stuck in between them if it didn’t work out.
For the Person Being Set Up
1. DO go on a double date if you are nervous. Who says it has to be just the two of you? My friend and his wife came along on our date; we went to a board game café and played games together. It relieved the tension because I could get to know my date without the pressure of figuring out how to fill awkward silence — my friends did it for me! They also left early so we had some time to ourselves at the end of the night. By that point some of my nervousness had abated, and we were able to get to know each other one-on-one. However, if I hadn’t been interested, I could easily have left at the same time my friends did without appearing rude.
2. DON’T feel like the date has to go well because your friend wants it to. It’s just a date. You’re free to feel nervous, but it’s fine if things don’t work out.
3. DO let your friend know you appreciate he cares. Kyle didn’t set me up because he wanted to play matchmaker. He did so because he knew I deeply desired a relationship and wanted to see that happen for me in a joyful, healthy way. Regardless of how the date went, I appreciated his thoughtfulness.
4. DON’T rely on your friend’s knowledge. Get to know your date for yourself. You may trust your friend completely, but at the end of the day, you’re the one going on a second date with this person (or not). It’s up to you to get to know her for yourself.
If you are looking for a relationship but are struggling with the minefield of online dating, consider approaching your close friends and asking them to think about setting you up. But if you do ask, make sure you’re open to it — you may be surprised by how seriously they take your request. Now, what have you got to lose?
2 Double Date
Sometimes I think of double dating as the easy way out because it can feel like four people hanging out and it eliminates a lot of anxiety from both parties. But nevertheless, if you know two friends who would be great for each other, setting up a double date is one of the classic ways to set up your friends. And if your friends seem like they are hitting it off, you and your significant other can always part company and leave them to themselves.
Your location is sent from your device only when someone requests to see it. Your location isn’t transmitted on a regular interval. For more information, see the iCloud security and privacy overview.
Friends and followers limits
You can follow up to 100 friends. Up to 100 friends can follow you.